I know the topic sounds sarcastic, right? Like, where’s the fun and beauty of being a single parent? We all dream of a partner, a complete home setting, and happy kids. But life can really provide lemons for some of us. However, it’s not all doom and misfortune; there is always a silver lining in every cloud. Single parenthood isn’t the dead end. It’s actually a beautiful journey full of memories and great experiences. I'm happy to rephrase the topic and say single parenthood is still beautiful. This, however, applies differently based on one’s mindset and approach. This doesn’t mean we all took it softly, no tears or sad experiences. It was a journey that one needs to evaluate and choose positivity over all the negative vibes

The first experience

Whether it is a legal separation or irreversible causes like death. Single parenting hits hard on everyone. It’s something that one can never wish to experience, but sometimes things just happen. It was the confusion and worry for me. I was wondering whether I would provide the best, how I would manage work and parenting, and, scariest of all, how I would handle the bills and society.

The society was a big threat: what will they say, how will they treat me, and how will my child cope? Okay, reality check, I got a cold and painful approach. Everyone saw me as the mistake. How can you raise your kid without a father? The bitter part is being taken as a potential husband snatcher. All women were always on the lookout for their husbands. I know you know that feeling, and this doesn’t apply to single mums but also to men. I believe no man wants you close to their wives, right? However, we survive and make the best families ever.

The Best Parts of Single Parenthood.

It’s not that I'm advocating for single parenting, but if you find yourself in such a “situation ship,” you don’t need to sob about it. Single parenting has multiple benefits or special moments that are always ignored and overshadowed by the negativity. Parents sailing on this kind of ship can maybe relate more to the following moments:

 1. Strong Bonds with Kids 

It’s a matter of undivided love, full attention, and keenness to every little detail. Single parents (father or mother), especially those who take the whole singleness positively, can attest to the incredible bonds built with their children.

Your kids become your greatest friends and partners. One is able to invest their whole attention in the children. This helps understand every development pattern and the needs of each child. This gives children a chance to fully invest their trust in the parent and also understand their type of life.

 2.  Decision making and problem solving

I don’t know if it’s just me or if this applies to all mothers and fathers parenting alone. It’s easier to make life decisions and implement different plans fast. Problems that would have taken longer to solve can be resolved with much hassle or interaction. Families can well after discussing and coming to a particular decision. There is no divided decision where one parent differs with the other, thus prolonging the results.

 3. Independence

When it comes to independence, we all learn the hard way. I'm sure we all have a story to tell. For women, fixing the lights and killing bugs becomes a common thing. While men learn to do home chores without depending on their partner. Single parenthood comes with different handles. Before the separation, many women depend on their husbands to fix a broken item, or light or just through the bug outside. Men also get ford of receiving different services, such as food, a clean shirt, or shoes, outright. With the single lifestyle, one learns to self-dependent, making it easier to maneuver through different situations.

Handles associated with Single parenthood and solutions

• Poor bonding and sad episodes

Based on the separation process, some individuals take longer to heal and adapt to the new lifestyle. This creates a drift with the children making it hard to build solid bonds. The sad episodes might affect the kids negatively leading to wrong company.

The majority of single-parent children find themselves in trouble as they try to seek approval from the outside world. This builds long-term wounds that may affect their marriage, creating a cycle of separation and depression in the family line.

Individuals in single parenthood should/need to seek help to aid the healing process. It’s okay to not being okay. We all need someone to hold us and assist in the tough journey. The children should not suffer the ordeal and should not carry any burdens related to your separation. Parents should prioritize their kids and work towards giving positive parenting.

• Bad and hasty decision

Sometimes a one-man decision can be wrong. It’s a nice feeling making all decisions without any inquiry, but we might make the wrong move without knowing. This will greatly affect the children or family as some are irreversible.

It is wise to involve a second party, especially for a huge decision that will impact the children. Whether finances or life-related issues, always seek a different opinion or think through the decision and problem. This will allow for correct and proper decisions that fit everyone.

Conclusion

It’s the fact of embracing, accepting, and aligning with the situation. Regardless of the happening, individuals in the single parenthood journey should display love and laughter for themselves and their children. It’s not easy, but one can make it easy with the right mind and attitude. It’s okay to cry, feel sad, but don’t dwell in the bad focus on the little good things that come with parenting.